Tears, Laughs and Mini-Heart Attacks: 20 Real Confessions from a Single Mom
Warning: This post contains real confessions from my parenting experience. Not all of them funny or the happiest moments of my life, but all of them real and raw and HONEST.
- I have been known to flip my son "the bird" behind his back if he's acting like a little monster.
- I will be honest, pregnancy was pretty easy for me. I didn't gain too much weight, or have weird cravings, or get hemorrhoids or stretch marks. I did, however, gain a new sense of anxiety that has never left me. At times the anxiety can be paralyzing. I don't like taking my son into crowds because too many people scare me. Driving has reached grandma level over-cautiousness. And anything like foods or medicines that don't meet some majorly overwhelming standard I have created in my head are outlawed. There are lists upon lists of things that I just can't even when it comes to my child. Am I weird? No. Is that normal? Yes. Does it feel like my fears are weird and abnormal? Completely.
- If my son gets a bad report from the teacher, I take it way too personally.
- Don't get me wrong...all kids are a blessing. That being said, I don't like all children. Some are creepy.
- I'm grateful to Steve Jobs and everyone at Apple for inventing the iPad...
- The first time my son spent the night with someone else while I wasn't there felt like someone ripped out my heart and split it in half. One half was happy and felt free, the other half felt lonely and empty and guilty. What is that about? He should be with the people who love him! But me? I just felt a deep sense of conflict and heartbreak. It has since healed a bit, but I don't think I'll ever feel 100% ok with not sleeping in the next room or right next to him all night, every night. I often cry when he's not there.
- As if I'm not conflicted about the above enough...I dream of taking a vacation...ALONE. I mean, I never will, but a girl can have a dream (or a whole secret Pinterest Board about it), amiright?
- I cannot stand the other parents at school sometimes...hence, the fact that I don't have many friends. Very few people annoy me these days.
- Once my son fell off of the bed and got a goose egg on his head... I almost had a heart attack. It took me months to feel like a good mom again. Months. It was awful.
- I would be happy if I never went back to work ever again and spent my days writing this blog and creating. Confession: I have a Master's Degree that I feel guilty for wasting.
- I have control issues when it comes to parenting and if everyone isn't doing everything my way I get seriously irritated. Not everyone can do what I do. Not everyone should. His Dad should do things his way, as long as we have a unified front and core values as a family. But, in the effort to be totally transparent, I feel like I have been the one doing the work for so long that everyone should do what I say. I hate that about me. It's annoying and unnecessary but it's completely honest and true. Do I express that often? No. I'm careful and I pick my battles.
- I spoil my kid. I buy him way too much. I pray I'm not creating a monster, but I like buying him things.
- Also, related to the above...toys are good bribery. Just sayin'.
- I took up running and the gym as a way to process my emotions, not to get healthy. I cry a lot at the gym.
- I have lost friends over parenting. If you're cool, but your kid is a total nightmare to be around...we can't be friends. Real Talk. Sorry.
- I have parked in the handicapped parking space at school when no other spaces are available for drop-off. I know...I'm a horrible person.
- I get excited when I don't have to make dinner for my son so someone else can stress over his nutrition and picky eating a few times a week.
- I forget to brush my sons teeth at night at least 2-3 times a week. Thank goodness these aren't permanent.
- I have never clipped my son's toenails. I can't explain it. I have literally never had to and its a mystery to me. I just go with it.
- People often say that they admire me for being a single mom, but that doesn't make me feel good. I didn't plan things this way. This is how it all played out. I made conscious decisions that led me to being a single parent. None of them easy. Some days I still feel the wounds that got our family here and it hurts. I am not a hero because I'm a single parent.