Yeah, I said it…you can feel SEXY in the skin you’re in. I am a firm believer that you don’t need to be perfect (whatever that is) to be sexy. Confidence is what matters most. It’s how we carry ourselves that is most attractive. Sexy is a vibe, not a number on the scale or an immaculately contoured cheekbone. Admittedly, I’ve struggled with self-confidence in the past. A series of failed relationships and less than worthy partners will do that to even the baddest bitch, but I found my way back to my inner-Beyonce. I may not have all of my shit together but I sure as hell look like it. Show me someone who has it totally together…I’ll wait.

Just kidding. Keep reading.

It’s not my milkshake that brings all the boys to the yard…it’s my ability to prioritize myself on my long list of responsibilities. The more attention I give myself the more confident I feel. The more confident I feel the more attention I receive. Weird, huh? Being a single mother can be overwhelming at times and any parent doing their thing will admit that they have lost themselves once or twice (or more) in the minutia of school lunches and laundry, diaper changing and nightly bedtime routines. My advice: quit that shit. You’re worthy of taking a top spot on your to-do list.

Here are my seven tried and true ways to bring your sexy back:

Give yourself a glow up. Buff away that blah feeling with a sugar scrub and give yourself that post-vacation-without-the-debt golden goddess feel with a little self tanner. Looking good naked isn’t for anyone else but YOU!
Rethink your underthings. Ok, hunny. Now that your skin is poppin’ and you’ve got that glow, take a look in that underwear drawer, Granny panties for days? Busted up old drawls aren’t going to ignite any burning desires. Do yourself a solid and get yourself something pretty to put on that bangin’ body. I don’t care if you like a g-string or a tight tank and boxers. You do you. I’m a huge fan of Adore Me. They seem to have something for everyone and all body types.
Declutter your surroundings and find a place that is just for you. Children and partners can’t take over every aspect of your life. Toys all over the place? Get a “fuck it bucket” to store them out of the way. You’ve got to find a place that is just for you and it can’t be full of everyone else life, it needs to be available to remind you that YOU are important and special.
Get dressed. Save the sweat pants and crappy t-shirts for cleaning days. Get up and get dressed. Whether you work in an office, wear a uniform or are a stay at home type, getting dressed with pride can boost that self confidence. You don’t need to spend a lot look good. Try shopping resale items on Poshmark to find or refine that signature style! Use my code WENDY_MEYER for a discount.
Make sense of scents. From an earthy lavender essential oil to my go-to perfume, I always make sure that I smell good. There’s no denying that a certain smell can trigger emotion, so go with your mood. Remember a little bit goes a long way. you don’t want the whole room to smell you when you walk in, just the person closest to you.
Find your holy grail. By that I mean, find that pair of jeans that makes your ass look amazing, or that LBD that makes you say “dayum I look good.” Remember: feeling sexy in you’re clothes is about how YOU feel.
Have some sexy inspo. We all have someone we look up to. That’s attraction. You’re attracted to their confidence, their joie de vivre. These days I’m all about Lizzo in the headphones. I can’t think of a sexier, more confident women. Whoever you look up to just remember that YOU are THAT bitch. You are just as beautiful and just as worthy of your own self adoration and love. So do something about it.

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